How Do You Spot Seasonal Depression in Yourself or Others?

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According to statistics, one in five Americans has a mental illness. With a stat like that, chances are you or someone you care about may be going through a difficult time, especially during the holidays. Seasonal depression tends to become more common in the fall and winter. So, how can we find the support we need and help those we care about do the same? First, we prioritize our mental health and then check in on the well-being of others. 

Checking In With Yourself

Before we can show up for others, it’s important to check in with ourselves. Over the past two weeks, ask yourself: how have you been feeling? Have you experienced sadness, anxiety, irritability, or hopelessness? If these feelings have been present most days, it can be a sign of depression. Unlike sadness, depression is long-lasting and can be detrimental to our well-being if left untreated. It is not something that goes away, and seeking professional help from a licensed therapist is the first step. By taking care of ourselves, we strengthen our ability to care for others.

Recognizing the Signs in Others

Have you noticed someone acting differently lately? While depression can be hard to recognize, it often shows through noticeable changes. People struggling with depression may withdraw from social activities and isolate themselves. You might also notice changes in their sleep patterns or increased irritability.

Depression doesn’t look the same for everyone, but these behavioral changes are common signs to watch for. If you suspect someone is experiencing depression, let them know you’re there for them. Many people feel ashamed, but by providing your support, you can help them take the necessary steps towards healing. 

Breaking the Stigma and Seeking Help

The stigma around mental health has shifted, and as someone who has experienced depression, I’m grateful to be able to share my diagnosis openly. Therapy was one of the first steps I took to improve my mental health. It has helped me become more self-aware and given me tools to regulate my emotions and reframe my thoughts. If you or someone you know is struggling with depression, don’t hesitate to reach out to a licensed therapist. We all need support, especially when it comes to our mental health.

How Do You Know You Can Trust Someone?

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Some people have a gift of discernment, while others rely on their intuition. Though these terms often seem interchangeable, they are slightly different. Intuition is that instant feeling we get when we meet someone for the first time. We get a sense of their character before learning anything about them. Discernment, on the other hand, develops over time as we observe consistent patterns in a person’s words and behavior. When used together, intuition and discernment become powerful tools for determining whether someone is trustworthy.

Trusting Our Intuition

When we meet people for the first time, our intuition often kicks in instantly. Feeling calm usually means our body is signaling trust, while anxiety can indicate that something feels off. However, sometimes our intuition contradicts what we think we know. I once met someone I clicked with, but there was one thing they did that didn’t sit well with me. The next time I was around them, I felt uneasy. Although I tried to brush it off, the feeling only grew stronger. Then a similar incident happened again, but this time I recognized a red flag. I decided to trust my gut and stop spending time with them. The anxiety I once felt turned into peace. 

Embracing Curiosity

Many people use logic to dismiss their intuition, which can lead to anxiety. Instead of ignoring how we feel, we can be curious about those feelings. If we don’t feel comfortable around someone, it could be that our intuition is picking up that they aren’t trustworthy. Or it could be picking up that there’s some incompatibility. When getting to know someone, it’s important to pay attention to their words and actions. Do they follow through on their commitments? Do they show consistency over time? By staying curious, we may find confirmation for what our intuition already sensed.

Learning Through Observation

While intuition can guide us, discernment teaches us valuable lessons. For example, by paying attention to how people treat others, we can learn a lot about their character. How do they treat strangers? How do they treat the people they love? How do they talk about their ex-partners or past relationships? These questions reveal their experiences with others and often provide a glimpse into who they really are. Another way to discern character is through feedback. When we offer feedback respectfully, do they become defensive or dismissive? Often, these kinds of responses indicate that a person isn’t open to growth and lacks accountability.

Final Thoughts

Intuition gives us a quick glimpse, while discernment helps us see the full picture over time. By trusting both and staying curious, we can better judge who deserves our trust. So, how do you know when someone is truly trustworthy?

Who Do You Turn to for Support?

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Much like riding a rollercoaster, life is full of ups and downs, and it’s much better to have someone beside you for the ride. When things take an unexpected turn, having someone close can be comforting. But what happens when you don’t have anyone during those twists and turns? It can feel scary and isolating. In difficult times, who is there for you through the highs and lows? 

Learning to Lean on Others

What do you do when you don’t have the support you need? We all need at least two people we can count on during tough times. The first is ourselves, and the second is someone we trust. For many, the only person they can truly rely on is themselves. While self-regulation is essential for building emotional resilience, asking for help is just as important for creating a strong support system. So, besides yourself, who can you turn to for support?

Identifying Positive Relationships 

Who in your family do you have a positive relationship with? Positive doesn’t necessarily mean close; it could be someone you get along with or who has been a consistent presence in your life. Now, when was the last time you reached out to them for support? Often, people are willing to support us if we give them the opportunity. And even if they don’t, at least we had the courage to ask.

Turning to Our Chosen Family

The next group to consider is our chosen family: our friends. Many people take pride in being the “strong” friend, but we don’t have to always wear that badge. After all, we’re not superhuman; we’re human. One of the greatest benefits of friendship is the support we receive. You deserve to have a lighter load, and it starts with asking for what you need. 

Taking the First Step: Asking for Help

Although I’ve only highlighted two sources of support, there are many more available. If you’re not receiving the help you need from friends or family, consider reaching out to neighbors, mentors, therapists, or support groups in your community. Take some time to list the supportive people in your life. If you’re having trouble identifying even a couple of people you can rely on, consider what small steps you might take to start building that support network. Sometimes, the first step is asking for help.

How Do You Define Accountability in Relationships?

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One of the most infamous breakup lines is, “It’s not you, it’s me.” However, some people tend to think the opposite: “It’s not me, it’s you.” What if we could see our relationships as mirrors? We might realize they are showing us parts of ourselves we don’t see. After all, we are the common denominator in every relationship. It could be time we acknowledge, “It’s me.” We could have handled things differently. Accountability isn’t about blaming ourselves; it’s about taking responsibility for our choices.

Know Your Worth

One thing that may be holding us back from the relationship we want is the person we choose. If we want a healthy and loving relationship, it starts with picking someone who respects us. Before love, there should be respect. Do they honor your time, boundaries, and opinions? If they don’t value you, they won’t know how to treat you. Self-respect empowers us to walk away from relationships that don’t serve us. It’s not about controlling others, but about setting standards for how we allow ourselves to be treated.

Turning Pain Into Insight

Many people carry shame about not leaving a toxic relationship sooner. Instead of judging ourselves for how long we stayed, we might ask: What boundaries will I set in my next relationship? What patterns did I notice early on? What do I need to heal to be ready for a healthy relationship? These questions give insight and prepare us for the next relationship. While breakups can be heartbreaking, they aren’t meant to last forever. Our past can’t be changed, but our future can. By learning from our experiences, we move closer to what we desire. 

Final Thoughts

Accountability begins with the realization: “It’s me, not you.” What can I learn? What can I do differently? How can I grow? Our relationships are mirrors, and only when we’re willing to look at ourselves without judgment can we learn the lessons.

When Was the Last Time You Broke Routine?

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A routine can give structure to our lives, but if we’re not careful, it can also take away spontaneity. Recently, I learned how to find a balance between the two. Structure helps me stay disciplined and consistent, while spontaneity allows me to embrace new experiences. I realized that if I wanted something different, it started with breaking my routine. When was the last time you broke your routine? 

The Comfort of Structure

Structure gives me peace of mind, but it was also keeping me stuck in my comfort zone. Instead of making big changes to my routine, I started small by changing the time I did things. I learned that being just a little more open could lead to unexpected experiences. By learning how to make small changes, I became more comfortable stepping outside my comfort zone. While I still value structure, I’ve learned that a little flexibility can go a long way.

The Power of Small Steps

I started small and worked my way up. Even small changes felt uncomfortable, but I’ve learned to manage that discomfort. Once, I visited a store I’d never been to and ended up finding a great deal. It was unfamiliar and out of my routine. Initially, I was reluctant to go to this store, but I stepped outside my comfort zone. I didn’t want fear to limit my life experience. Fear isn’t something you cure, it’s something you face. That day, I learned that one small change can lead to significant growth. 

Be Spontaneous

How predictable is your life? Hold on to that answer. Now, how exciting is your life? If your life is predictable, but not exciting, I invite you to be more spontaneous. It doesn’t have to be dramatic; it can be small. Consider doing something different this week. Then, I want you to reflect on the experience. You might discover that a little spontaneity goes a long way. 

What Is Missing in Your Current Relationship?

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You’re not asking for too much, you’re just asking the wrong person. Healthy relationships are reciprocal; they pour into each other’s cups. Our cups represent what we’re able to give in a relationship. If you saw someone with an empty cup, you wouldn’t ask them for water. Yet, how often do we ask people to give us something they don’t have? It’s not wrong to ask for what you need; it’s just important to recognize when someone doesn’t have the capacity to give it.

Fill Your Cup First

What fills your cup? Before entering a relationship, you might consider filling your cup first. After all, you can only give what you have. The best way to keep your cup full is through self-care. Many people neglect themselves by not having a self-care routine. For me, journaling is my go-to practice. It’s more than just writing words on paper. It’s about showing up for myself consistently. If you want to give more in relationships, start by pouring into yourself.

Give and Take: The Balance of Healthy Love

Have you ever felt neglected in a relationship? Oftentimes, it happens because you’re not pouring into yourself or you’re pouring into an empty cup. Everyone comes into a relationship with a cup. Some cups are full while others are empty. It isn’t your responsibility to fill an empty cup. If you fill an empty cup, you’re giving too much of yourself. Healthy relationships strike a balance between giving and taking. It isn’t just about what you can provide but also what you can receive. The next time you feel neglected in a relationship, ask yourself: Is it a lack of self-care or a lack of reciprocity?

Final Thoughts

While it’s important to know what you need in a relationship, it’s equally important to know who can meet those needs. If you learn how to show up for yourself, you’re less likely to stay in relationships that don’t show up for you. When you have a full cup, you keep it full by being with people who also have a full cup. Never stop asking for what you need. Just make sure you’re asking the right person.

How Often Do You Compare Yourself to Others?

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The key to feeling better about ourselves isn’t about being like anyone other than who we are. Too often, we fall into the trap of social comparison. We allow how we look, who we know, and what we have to validate who we are. Or maybe we feel intimidated by someone we deem as better looking, more successful, and well-liked. We focus on their strengths while overlooking ours. No wonder we struggle to feel good enough. The truth is that self-worth is internal and validation is external. Instead of outsourcing our worth, we can look inward.

Shift Your Focus Inward

Too often, we don’t notice things about ourselves until someone else points them out. I wonder how much of that is because we spend so much time comparing ourselves to others. Maybe we notice other people’s strengths more easily because we’re focused on them instead of ourselves. But what if we shifted that focus inward? We start to recognize that we have strengths too. If we can see the best in someone else, why not also see the best in ourselves? A person who knows who they are is confident. A confident person recognizes their innate worth.

Become the Best Version of You

We often compare ourselves to others because we lack confidence in who we are. The comparison gives us a sense of security because we lack it internally. It feels good when we’re doing as great as our peers, but what happens when we fall behind? Our confidence begins to suffer. Comparison is the thief of joy. If we make it a habit, we might never be content with who we are. Instead of constantly measuring our worth against others, we can focus on becoming the best version of ourselves.

The Power of Being You

Have you ever thought about trading places with someone? Maybe it’s because you admire who they are or you want what they have. If you do, are you ready to accept everything that comes with it: the weaknesses and strengths, the mistakes and lessons, the successes and failures? You never know what a person has been through to become who they are today. While we can be inspired by someone, that doesn’t mean we need to be like them. The beauty in all of us is our uniqueness.

While it is great to see the light in others, we can also take time to see the light within ourselves. Focusing on who we are can help us to let go of social comparisons. There’s no need to be like anyone else, because who we are is enough.


How Do You Protect Your Peace?

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Growing up, watching the news felt like watching a horror movie. I knew it was scary, but I couldn’t look away. There were things I saw that I wish I hadn’t. As an adult, I’ve learned that if the headline is triggering, I don’t need to click on the article. For me, protecting my peace means intentionally avoiding harmful content, environments, and people. What are you consuming that might be costing you peace?

The Hidden Cost of Social Media

If it costs you your peace, it is too expensive. When we think about our peace, how much of it is being taken away by the content we consume on social media? Research shows that excessive use of social media can increase symptoms of anxiety, depression, and stress. It could be because we are comparing ourselves to others, experiencing cyberbullying, or isolating ourselves from the real world. Does this mean we should delete our social media accounts? Not necessarily. But becoming more mindful of how much time we spend on it might be the first step toward reclaiming our peace.

Boundaries = Peace

Is there someone or something outside of social media affecting your peace? A gossiping friend? A toxic work environment? Family drama? These are all things that can take a toll on your mental health. If there’s one word I believe is most helpful in situations like these, it’s boundaries. Setting a boundary could mean making a request, limiting your interactions, or even completely removing yourself from a harmful situation.

The next time you feel stressed about something, ask yourself: What boundary do I need to set? The next time you feel drained after a conversation with someone, pause and ask: What boundary could protect my energy next time? By setting boundaries, you safeguard your peace.

Make Peace with Yourself

Last but not least, be kind to yourself. Many of us don’t have peace with ourselves because we don’t believe we’re enough. But whether we realize it or not, we are enough. The moment we recognize our innate worth is the moment we discover true peace. Allow peace to be your standard, not just a preference.

How Do You Stay Consistent with Your Goals?

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There are 365 days in a year, which equals 8,760 hours. Yet, with all that time, we often fall short of our goals. Why is that? Sometimes, I think it’s because we leap when we can take a small step. Just because you have a big dream doesn’t mean you have to make a huge jump. How do you walk up the stairs? It’s one step at a time. The same mindset can apply to pursuing your dreams. All it takes is the courage to start and the consistency to keep going.

Stepping Stones Lead to Milestones

Walt Disney says we can fulfill our dreams if we have the courage to pursue them. For years, my blog was just a thought until I was brave enough to take action. While courage helped me begin, it was consistency that helped me grow. I set a goal to write weekly, and before long, I had published 100 posts. I think sometimes we forget that it’s the stepping stones that lead us to the milestone. With this in mind, what is one small step you can take to reach your goals?

Trusting the Process

While there is more than one way to achieve a goal, I think sometimes we skip important steps. Before I could launch my blog, I needed to identify my niche, choose a blog name, select a domain, and find a hosting provider. I didn’t rush through these steps; instead, I did thorough research to see what worked best for me. Although the process took longer, I still reached my goal. If we still get what we want, why does it matter how long it takes? The pressure we put on ourselves to achieve things by a certain time is what causes us to rush the process. If we learn to appreciate the process as much as the outcome, it could help us slow down.

Taking the First Step

We all have dreams, goals, and desires, but what’s stopping us from reaching them? Two things come to mind: a lack of courage and consistency. We need the courage to start and the consistency to grow. Think about something you want to achieve in the next year. Now, identify one action you can take each week to move toward that goal. Remember Walt Disney’s words: All our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to pursue them.

What Scares You the Most About Failure?

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While many people strive to achieve success, others go to great lengths to avoid failure. But success doesn’t come without the lessons from failure. Instead of allowing failure to define us, we might consider what it can teach us. If we’re open to these lessons, we may discover resilience and an identity that goes beyond our accomplishments.

Embracing Failure as Part of the Process

Failure isn’t something to be embarrassed or ashamed of. Think about how we learned to walk as babies. We had to fall and get back up many times before we could walk confidently. As adults, we sometimes forget that learning anything new takes time, effort, and making mistakes. Too often, we put pressure on ourselves to be perfect because we’re afraid to fail. But failure is essential to growth. It’s how we learn, adapt, and improve.

The Power of Getting Back Up

How many times are you willing to get back up? The answer to this question is an indication of your resilience. The road to success has never been described as easy. However, if we persevere through the challenges, mistakes, judgments, and failures, we can ultimately reach success. Perfection isn’t the key to success; perseverance is. Your resilience will determine how successful you can become.

Resilience > Approval

We often don’t take risks because we are afraid to fail. If we fail, we believe people will judge us. While being judged doesn’t feel great, it doesn’t define who we are. In fact, taking risks shows courage and confidence. Although success is something we can be proud of, our identity is not limited to what we accomplish. We are still capable even in failure. We are still worthy even if people judge us.

Turning Setbacks into Stepping Stones

If you want to be successful in life, don’t be afraid to fail. Failure doesn’t define us; it’s how we respond to it that matters. One common trait among many successful people is resilience. Thomas Edison, Walt Disney, and Michael Jordan didn’t allow failure to hold them back. In fact, they allowed it to push them forward. By having the courage to fail and the strength to persevere, you can also become successful.